We seem to live in a world of “what’s wrong” instead of a world of “what’s next.”
When the parent of a prospective student comes to meet us, we ask them to tell the story of their child’s education and development. Most stories have the same plot: things were going pretty well, they started going bad, and now we are in a really bad place. The stories always end on a sour note; parents feel stuck, kids are in a cycle of failure, and they are looking for a way out. After years of struggles, both within the family and with the schools, our visitors seem to be stuck in a place best described as “what’s wrong.”
At NHA we refuse to live in that world. While it is helpful to know the story of how a family ends up visiting the school, we are not in the business of what’s wrong; we are in the business of what’s next.
Today I met with a family that has been struggling. As I tried to move the conversation to what’s next, they kept taking it back to what’s wrong. I even wrote out “What’s WRONG vs. what’s NEXT” on a piece of paper so they could see it in large, bold letters, but they kept going back to what’s wrong.
It occurred to me that they have difficulty living in the realm of what’s next because so many of their experiences have ended in disappointment and failure.
It is not easy to move away from an unhappy story. It takes discipline to accept that things are the way they are and, perhaps more importantly, are not the way they are not. It takes even more discipline to stop judging the circumstances as being wrong. It isn’t that they are right – it is that judging your circumstances is not at all helpful. Being mired in wrongness is not productive and does not lead to success.
To be successful requires that you look to what’s next. If you have a hard time doing that, stop by for a visit and we’ll help you through it.
Matt Marcus, President
New Horizon Academy